If you have attended prior polyspeeddating events, please log in first before registering.

This will allow the system to give you fresh new dates, and not ones you have previously speed-dated.

If you have forgotten your ID or your password, you can do a password reset by going to the Password Reset Page and handing over your email address.

Note: This is the group registration form, meaning you want to go on dates as a member of a set group (say you're an existing triad that is looking for a fourth). If you want to go on dates as an individual, then fill in the other form for individuals, and have any of your partners who are going do so as well.

What is speed dating? Speed Dating is just a very quick way to meet people. You'll sit down for a few minutes with several different people, and mark each one "yes" or "no" on a sheet of paper. Then we'll figure out who matched. If you say "yes" to someone, you aren't agreeing to go on a 'real' date or engage in any particular activity with them. But hopefully when matches happen, one of you will find the other and say, "Hey, we matched! Want to continue that conversation?"

Instructions: Fill out this form, and click submit. You will then be directed to Stripe where you will be asked to pay the registration fee.

More on Group Dating: If you are a bit confused, read the group examples to see what some of the choices might mean.

Larger groups: If you are a group of more than 2 people, fill the form out for two of you, then please email us so we can augment with your full group roster. Apologies for the broken system; we are working on it. All of you will be treated the same in the actual matching (there's no advantage to being one of the first two).

Desired group nametag name:

e.g. "Linda and Johanna"

Contact email:

This email address will be given out when you successfully match with someone and used for emails about this evening before and immediately after the event. It will not be made public or shared for any other reason.

Yes, we want to hear about future Poly Speed Dating (or other related Poly Social) events thrown by you folks.

Group Member Information:

For each member in your group, fill out who they are and what they are looking for (if anything). As mentioned above, groups of more than 2 people should fill out this form with the information of two of you, then contact us to add the third person.

Remember:
Be open-minded! If you aren't interested in meeting a certain type of person, don't say you are-- but leave yourself room to be surprised.

Also, gender matching is complex. We have attempted to design a system that is all-inclusive and celebratory of the full spectrum of what is possible. Humans are complex and therefore there are a lot of checkboxes! Please read the help section for more about what is going on here if you are at all confused. Be aware, the sorts of people you are matched with depends a lot on what you do here.

person #1:

Name (First, Last):
Pronoun: (help!)

Age: years old.

Gender and Sex (help!):
Person #1 wants to date any of the following:
 Person #1's dates must be open to dating all of the following:

Person #1 is the following:

potentially interested in (another) primary relationship.

kinky. (About the kinkiness.)

asexual. (About asexuality.)

able to do a speed date in Spanish. (About the Spanish.)

Person #1's desires:

Acceptable age range for dates:       From to years old.

Primary-searchiness:  

Kinkiness:  

Asexuality:  

Spanish:  

Free-Text Matching:

You can fill in any words you want here and we'll try to match you with people who used the same words. Learn about those here and some sample words here. Some examples: bear, rock-climbing!!!, happy_person.

I prefer people who list the following, and the more they list the better:
 I am the following:

Allow my dates to see which tags match (check box if yes).

person #2:

Name (First, Last):
Pronoun: (help!)

Age: years old.

Gender and Sex (help!):
Person #2 wants to date any of the following:
 Person #2's dates must be open to dating all of the following:

Person #2 is the following:

potentially interested in (another) primary relationship.

kinky. (About the kinkiness.)

asexual. (About asexuality.)

able to do a speed date in Spanish. (About the Spanish.)

Person #2's desires:

Acceptable age range for dates:       From to years old.

Primary-searchiness:  

Kinkiness:  

Asexuality:  

Spanish:  

Free-Text Matching:

You can fill in any words you want here and we'll try to match you with people who used the same words. Learn about those here and some sample words here. Some examples: bear, rock-climbing!!!, happy_person.

I prefer people who list the following, and the more they list the better:
 I am the following:

Allow my dates to see which tags match (check box if yes).

Groups

As you know, other folks may be speed-dating as groups. This means you can have group-group dates! You will only match with a group if everybody at the table has at least one mutual match in the other group.

We are happy to date groups.

(Remember that this is Poly Speed Dating--just because you say no to dating a group does not mean the individuals you do end up dating do not have pre-existing relationships.)

Zones where you as a group would consider yourselves located

As a secondary consideration, we attempt to match you with people from similar geographical areas. Check all that apply.

Dates with Volunteers and Staff

In order to be as consent-based as possible, we will only match speed-dating volunteers and staff to those participants who explicitly give consent to be matched with this group.

We consent to being potentially matched with volunteers and staff working the event (assuming they are mutual matches).      (About this consent question.)

Friends

Due to the matching process, and depending on who registers, you may have slots in your schedule with no date. During these times you can either socialize in the social area or, if you like, have us attempt to schedule "friendship dates" with people who mutually do not match you. Would you like to have a few of these dates?

We want some Friendship Dates.

Referral

We were referred to PSD by:

(Leave blank if no one, or you don't recall.)

Mobility:

If you would like to not have to move from table to table between dates due to mobility concerns, please check the box below. Note that this is not a matching criterion.

we would like to be stationary.

Comments/Remarks

Anything to add? Anything we should know? Anything we can do to help with accessibility? Are there people that you specifically do not want to be matched with? (We will try to catch and break such matches, and you can double-check at the event when you check in.)