You may be wondering why there's a checkbox about monogamy at Poly Speed Dating.

If you definitely want monogamy, this may not be the event for you. However, some people are happy in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, depending on their partner, other events in their life, and so on. While we designed this event for the poly community, we want to be accessible for everybody who enters relationships that don't contain the unspoken presumption of monogamy-- that includes structures like swinging, open relationships and relationship anarchy, AND it includes people who don't presume monogamy but who have sometimes happily engaged in it and might again.

If you express a strong preference that your partners enjoy monogamy, we will always prioritize dates which fit that preference, even if that means fewer dates for you overall. However, we may still match you with someone who does NOT meet this preference if you are a match in other ways.

If you do not ever enjoy monogamy (i.e. you did not check the box), then whether a potential date did check the box or not will have no effect on your matching.